You Incomplete Me

Original posted to my old blog August 2007:

Ah, completion. Everyone wants to be completed by someone else. It’s a romantic ideal to believe that out there in the universe is someone who will complete us. We believe that something is missing within us as people that can only be found when we meet the perfect somebody. If the person were engaging doesn’t happen to be someone we find ourselves completed by, we seek someone else who can complete us more fully. We are often on the constant search to find the one person who fulfills us completely.

We rarely consider that everyone we meet, everyone we come into contact with, everyone we have any sort of relationship with has value and worth apart from completing us. Instead, we’d prefer to seek relationships on the basis of how we feel fulfilled. It’s cliche, but it’s reality. We want to say or at least think, “You complete me.” Sounds cheesy, huh?

But everyone we meet adds value and worth to our existence. Anyone can bless you by who they are and what they have to offer. Whenever two hearts collide and soul partnerships are formed, no matter if its for a brief period in time or for a lifetime, we add something to one another. We do not add something to each other, because we are incomplete. Rather, we amplify what’s already completed in someone else by what’s already completed in us.

Relationships, including marriage, shouldn’t be about selfish completion. It’s rather narcissistic when somebody desires a relationship to complete their self or fill what’s missing. Possibly, many relationships and marriages end when one partner senses that they are no longer completed by the other partner who once completed them. Was it their job to complete them in the first place?

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